Kathryn's Book: Who Gets the Dog?

‘Who gets the Dog” answers your questions about what really happens during separation and divorce. This book is not just a theoretical framework of the legal system. It is instead a practical guide that is woven with the reality that real life is messy. Even for the life that we want.

Book cover of Who Gets the Dog?

The print book is available for $24.95, includes free postage within Australia.

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Who Gets the Dog?

You have seen some couples, once caring and loving, go on to create and star in their own Divorce Horror Show, taking every opportunity to act out yet another dirty tactic, losing their soul and their wallet to a legal battle that feels like it will never end.

And yet you have also seen other couples somehow work through things amicably before most people even realised they were separating.

This book will reassure you that you too can create an environment conducive to a quiet, simple and relatively inexpensive separation process, even though you may feel everything is at risk right now.

‘Who gets the Dog’ asks the real questions, and provides practical hints and hot tips so you avoid losing yourself to a legal war. Because of this book you will:

  • learn how to cope when everything is falling apart
  • find paths through conflict that are respectful, authentic and human
  • become courageous enough to try new and better ways.

This book gives you reassurance and hope. 

Kathryn Hodges has captured the very essence of family conflict and then, in a very easy-to-read way, provided an excellent alternative. This book needs to be published and made available en masse. My hope is that every single person going through separation gets the opportunity to read it. It really has the potential to change lives.

Judge Steve Middleton

Judge of the Federal Circuit Court of Australia

Let’s face it; there’s still stigma around a relationship breaking down. Especially when there’s kids involved and not to mention the aforementioned hound. People are going to come out of the woodwork to give you their horror stories, their results based on their experience, and many of those people are going to be highly wounded as part of their experience. What Kathryn does with this book is help you to put those much needed headphones on and sit in the process in your peace. As soon as you start reading, you will be able to breathe out knowing that there is a way out of the distress. ‘One of my favourite quotes of all time is by Sara Henderson, the amazing pastoralist and author who ran Bullo River Station in the Northern Territory: “Don’t wait for the light at the end of the tunnel, go down there and light the bloody thing yourself.” This book is you taking back your right to calm by lighting the bloody thing yourself. I wish you well on your journey to your new normal.

Amanda Foy

The Emotional Strength Trainer

When I separated twenty years ago this is the book I wish I’d had; it would have saved me years of heartbreak and no small amount of money. Kathryn’s informal style and quirky sense of humour make this a truly helpful and accessible guide for anyone going through a separation. It’s filled with practical wisdom, based on years of experience as a family lawyer, that will help you see what really matters and make the right decisions, for both yourself and for your children.

Jenny Blagdon

Spirited Social Change-Making Facilitator

Who Gets the Dog? is more than just a practical book filled with useful tips about separation, divorce and family law in Australia. It’s got all that in spades, of course, but what Kathryn Hodges achieves within these pages is to inspire those on the brink of, or deep within, the breakdown of a relationship to open their eyes to the possibilities. The possibilities of empathy, understanding, peaceful division, and of course saving bucket loads of money on legal fees! ‘Kathryn’s book has an undercurrent of compassion, something sadly absent in the cut and thrust of family law, and certainly rare amongst the lawyers who ply that trade. Having worked with many clients in this space over the years, I wish this book had been available then to give to them. At least some of them could have saved some of their hard-earned dollars … and hard-to-heal scars after reading it.

Warwick Bidwell