“They won’t give me a divorce”

“They won’t give me a divorce”

Sometimes I sit with people who are feeling stuck. To be honest, most people I sit with are feeling stuck. But, today I am thinking of the people who are feeling stuck being married to someone they no longer love, and often do not live with. Their relationship is...
Back to Real Life

Back to Real Life

Christmas and New Year celebrations are over. If your home is like mine, there may be a bit of this action going on today.   Real life can sometimes be tough to face. Christmas wraps everything in tinsel and sparkles, and asks us to set aside real life, and focus...
A Simple Separation isn’t Easy

A Simple Separation isn’t Easy

When helping people with the legal pieces of the separation puzzle, every story and every family is different. But very often I hear the same comment, from almost everyone, at some stage during our work together.   There are a number of versions of this theme...
The Fear Factor

The Fear Factor

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the fears I see hiding in the eyes of the people who come to me for advice. After all, we all have worries, fears and troubles. And what do I do all day long. I am with people, staring down their worries, their fears and their...
We’ve Agreed We Won’t Use Lawyers

We’ve Agreed We Won’t Use Lawyers

Although it’s easy to picture that all separations are a war zone, that is definitely not the case. There are plenty of people that I am fortunate enough to work with, who are doing their best to walk their way through a respectful separation.  A separation that...