Sometimes I sit with people who are feeling stuck. To be honest, most people I sit with are feeling stuck. But, today I am thinking of the people who are feeling stuck being married to someone they no longer love, and often do not live with.
Figuring out where to begin, can be the very hardest step. When you have lost a loved one and are trying to figure out “where do I begin”, the way ahead can seem anything but clear. There are so many things to do, and everyone has a different piece of advice for you, and each one points to yet another path or trail to follow.
Christmas and New Year celebrations are over. If your home is like mine, there may be a bit of this action going on today. Real life can sometimes be tough to face. Christmas wraps everything in tinsel and sparkles, and asks us to set aside real life, and focus on family and love and joy and peace.
Families come in all shapes and sizes, and our lives have many chapters. And nothing puts the spotlight on those things like Christmas. When it is far to easy to see our lives in stark contrast to the advertising messages of love and family joy at Christmas.
When helping people with the legal pieces of the separation puzzle, every story and every family is different. But very often I hear the same comment, from almost everyone, at some stage during our work together.
Although it’s easy to picture that all separations are a war zone, that is definitely not the case. There are plenty of people that I am fortunate enough to work with, who are doing their best to walk their way through a respectful separation.
A lawyer’s office is like a cone of silence. A vault. A safe space. If you go to see a lawyer, what is exchanged between you is in the vault. Locked away from prying eyes and curious ears. In fact, even the fact that you have been to see the lawyer, is in the vault.
I thought it might be helpful if I could walk through a few of the most common questions that I hear at my office. Often, when people ring me, or come in to see me, in the course of chatting there will be some version of “So, Kathryn, I just really want to know where I stand”.
Do you ask yourself that question? I know I do, and often. Let me begin the Integrated Family Law blog by telling you a little story. My story. Well, one of my stories 🙂 I came to the law knowing nothing about the law, legal practice or the profession. I finished...